Anxiety Self Help

Let's start with some good news....

If you have read my past blogs, you will see that my Mom's cancer recurrence has been upsetting me. I am very happy to report that the chemo miracle pill they have been giving her is working perfectly, and her bloodwork tumor markers are down to normal. Thanks for all your prayers and thoughts.

I am going to skip the long crappy details of what is bothering me. What it all boils down to is that you can't control other people's behavior, no matter how many suggestions, alternatives, ultimatums and pleads you give them. My big fear is that someone else's behavior is going to hurt me emotionally and become my problem to fix.

These fears are consuming me. I no sooner calm down about health issues and I replace it with something else that isn't even really my problem. I am constantly afraid.

If anyone has any specific tips for dealing with controlling fear, nervous tummy or words of wisdom regarding worrying about other people actions, please share them with me.

I feel like I tell everyone I know every day that I feel anxious and I need help and no one has any suggestions.

My Comments From: SorrowSmiles Feb 28 2011, 1:51 pm My mother is the same way=addicted to worry. I've tried to help her deal with certain things she would stress on, but as soon as one problem is taken care of, she moves to stressing about something else. It was a constant battle between us because alot of the time she wouldn't WANT help. I'm glad you do. One thing I could suggest, is writing down everything you need to get down the following day before bed time. That way you can clear your mind of your "to-do" list and won't have to worry about remembering all the things you want to accomplish the next day. Also, if it's something big you need to get done, break it down into smaller, more attainable goals, so you can start seeing progress quicker and it won't seem so overwhelming. If you're stressing on something you really feel shouldn't be bothering you, ask yourself why you're really focusing on this to try and get to the root of your worry. Also, try distracting yourself with some of your own to-do's so you won't obsess so much about others actions, reactions, etc. Good luck to you <3 From: FLORIDA Feb 28 2011, 12:56 pm Like most of us you are just ultra sensitive and like to help. Since we are so sensitive other peoples vibes easily get transfer to us. I do not have any specific advise except to take a look at the video on my page or you can just google "high sensitivity". I think it will help or at least show you why other people behaviors seems to affect us.