Jenn_lynne             
 


May 27 2008, 8:35 am / Tired

I go to California in about a week. I'm getting really excited, I've never been there before. But it's like a mix of excitement & dread. The closer it gets the more anxious I get. I just know I'll talk & act awkward around my fiance's family. I have 4 siblings to meet & I'm not comfortable around his parents yet. The thought of staying at their house for 10 days just makes me nervous. The thought of eating dinner at the table with them makes me nervous, having to talk & stuff... I have so many stupid worries! But also I'm going to have my "time of the month" at some point, so I'll feel miserable at the beginning of that. Might have it when we go to the beach too & so I won't swim. Depressing :( I just am afraid I'll have an anxiety attack when I meet everybody & I'm  awkward. I guess it will all be worth it to see Cali & I'm going to take a million pics. :-)


My Comments

May 27 2008, 1:08 pm

jenn_lynne i understand how you feel. 2 weeks ago i returned home for a visit after not being there for 5 years and i did the trip by myself. 30 hours on a train heading there and flying back.

while i was there i was bestman at my niece's wedding which in itself was a stress. also after at the reception i could not eat with everyone else (sa). I was extremely nervous, nearly panicky but you know i got through it. i kept dealing with the maladaptive thoughts as soon as they entered my head and fought them and won (for awhile; it was a constant battle)

i understand about feeling awkward and  feeling like you'll embarrass yourself but be strong and believe in yourself; YOU CAN DO IT :)

one thing that helps me a lot is zoning out yet remaining in the present. i let my mind drift to that little corner that seems to help me a lot. also carry a water bottle so you can squeeze it when you feel tense and take little sips at a time which helps regulate your body. and remember to breathe from your diaphragm as opposed to your chest; it helps tremendously in controlling the physical symptoms of panic attacks.

keep your chin up; you can do it

 



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