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It is good that you are unwrapping your thoughts. We all need to be able to either say or write out our thoughts about things that are serious to us. If we keep them all bottled up we really don't get a chance to examine them and understand them. Your feelings about work sound like the SAD automatic negative thoughts that all social anxiety people have. Those you have to expose for the lies they are so you can replace them with positive thoughts.

Our first love for anxious people and I think for most people is kind of a bittersweet thing. It is scarey and at the same time it is wonderful. It is great that you feel comfortable opening up to him. That has to be the foundation of any great relationship, both parties have to be completely comfortable sharing their thoughts, fears, happiness, and every other feeling with each other. This means he has to feel comfortable opening up to you also and you have to allow him to.

Your customs may be different from ours, but in my opinion you are not running a race. You don't have to be at a specific place in a specific time or beat someone else. Just give the two of you time to get to know each other and enjoy each other's company during that time. You have a new feeling and it is nice so savor it. The better you know him the more you will know what your feelings for him are and the same in his feelings for you. As someone said this is a wonderful distraction from your anxiety feelings and may be helpful to you in learning how to deal with them. This is a very special time in your life so enjoy it on whatever timetable it takes.

I will let the someone else address the clingy, needy thing. It is good that you have the opportunity to get various opinions from both males and females. Keep unwrapping your thoughts and you will have a much happier peaceful life. I am happy for you. ENJOY!!