Anxiety Self Help

May 14 2013, 12:03 am

My friend once showed me a site where u could.track fireflies to see them ..just thought of it with your handle if. U like them u could google n find it I bet

May 08 2013, 7:17 pm

do not intimidate nor be afraid to talk to her.She needs to be STOP her lame tactics.
You have the RIGHT to stop her its YOUR boyfriend that she is messing up with she has hidden agendas she needs to KNOW where she stands she needs to know her limitations of the friendship and such.Remind her where she stands.

May 08 2013, 7:08 pm

Talk to the girl just once .Tell her she is a disturbance .Tell her to quit the tactics to trap your boyfriend.
Tell her to be a decent girl and act herself accordingly because she looks cheap and desperate.
and most of all tell her" DO NOT wait on someone else's boyfriend.
Tell her to get a life!
we will see if she would stop pestering both of you.

Apr 16 2013, 4:59 am

Thanks firefly, that was really nice. :)

Apr 14 2013, 4:10 pm

Does ur boyfriend know how u feel about this and how its adding to ur anxiety. Honesty of speaking ur mind and and telling him about how u feel about this girl texting him. That help with the worry ur having and make u feel less anxious. The fact he's told shows he's loyal to u which is a good thing. If he's got a Iphone he can block her number.As she try to make a move for him through text of calling him?

Apr 12 2013, 3:51 pm

Yeah, i see what you mean and I'm sure you hate raising it. it'd be something I'd just want to go away. I guess if they're just friends you can join in the conversation, can't you.

maybe that's a way you can play it down the track. Lol.

Apr 11 2013, 12:41 am

Baby steps - he's only 20! :p you gotta make sure you don't get toey with them or they react to it and things don't go well. My gut feel is you're moving faster than he is confident about. Remember what you were like at 20.

you've gotta take 'em as you find 'em. But let them come to you. And when they do come to you, smile and welcome them. Find your own inner peace without them. Mum said to me once, not that long ago - she said "bridgette, you have to explore why you need to feel loved." It's a good question. We've got to be our own cake, and let the men in our lives be the icing. It's when we make these guys our cake that our lives get destroyed.

I speak from personal experience. :p

Apr 08 2013, 9:19 pm

Harvey is a great movie, one of my favorites!

Mar 31 2013, 5:43 pm

He does sound anxious, and because he's a guy he has the verbal and analytical skills of a gnat. :D That's what makes them cute. :D

I would let him work it out of his system in his own time. If he's still showing up, you two are still together. He's well out of his comfort zone, it's killing him, compassion and space will give his anxiety levels time to come down.

Never forget which way his feet are pointing. That's what you go buy - not the stuff that comes out of their mouths, which is often a result of panic, but where their feet are. :)

Mar 31 2013, 3:38 am

You know what firefly? Time is your friend. :) It really is. All will become clear in time. All you have to do is give it time and see.

Maybe he's just struggling with the idea of being in a relationship and this has nothing much to do with you. If he's lovely when he's lovely, I would hang on tight to that. And not let any of the stuff he says when the wheels fall off get in.

The longer people are together the more accustomed they are to being together, and the more likely they are to stay together. They grow together. When things get tough remember to give him time. :) And give yourself time too. :p

I wish you two the very best.